Some Day My Prince Will Come, But Am I Cinderella?

I want a good man. A man that has money. A man that has his stuff together. I want him to drive a nice car, have a good job, and have a beautiful home. I don't want any "baby mama drama."

How often have we heard these very comments? My question is, how worthy is the individual that is making these requests. Many time we as women are very clear about what we want in a man, but are we the type of woman that deserves this type of man?

Wait! Before you answer, think about this. Would you continue to have a separate account that he doesn't know about so that if things don't work out you can make a clean break? Would you feel as though he was controlling you rather than just concerned when he asks where you're going and when you'll be home?

Well, the fact of the matter is, that many of us are so blinded by the wedding that we forget about the marriage and all of the "stuff" that goes with it. Instead of looking for all of the materialistic, superficial reasons to get married, why don't we focus on the more meaningful characteristics that will last a lifetime. Is the man responsible? Does he love you? Is he trustworthy? These are the qualities that will last. Money, jobs, and looks will come and go but pride, respectability, and love are mainstays.

We should spend our time preparing ourselves for marriage rather than the wedding. We should stop limiting ourselves when it comes to possible prospects for marriage. If we are truly as independent as we say we are, then we don't need a man to provide material things for us anyway.

Each person in the relationship should enter the relationship as a whole person. Not as one seeking to be completed. If this is the case, then the marriage will never work. You must also make yourself approachable. No one, not even other women want to be in the company of someone that always has to broadcast their accomplishments in order to hold a conversation. This is not only shallow it is boring. You should have more facets to yourself than what you do.

The bottom line is, work on yourself. Get yourself ready for a relationship first and the rest will come . Use this time to make yourself complete and then your Prince Charming will come.

What's the big "Secret"?

Is it really a secret or did we just forget?

A few months back all the world was a rage about the new book and DVD called "The Secret. Personally, I didn't realize that any of the concepts in the book were actually a secret. I am an avid Bible reader and many of the ideas brought forth in this book are simply (in my mind) spin offs from Biblical principals that were written about long ago; which brings me to my next issue.

I was once told that this is probably the first unchurched generation. As a result many of them may never have picked up a Bible. Forget having read one! Therefore, it has become painfully obvious that we must seek new ways to tell an old story. Thus, I guess, "the Secret."

In my conversations I have heard that avenues such as plays, You Tube, My space, and others have now usurped in someways, the church in getting the message across. Books, too are helping, but even in that area many times audio books are preferred.

It is my guess that if we don't become more creative in our worship the "Secret" will be lost or at least forgotten.