How Can I Feel More Worthy?

Truthful, in-depth personal knowledge is known as "insight." This is a deep, intuitive realizing of yourself that fortifies your core. Your core calls for being both strong and resilient so it can handle the shifts life surprises you with.

Pleased, successful people nurture this inner part of themselves because they know when they shine an the individuals around them feel better also. Having quiet, resolute energy will receive instant feedback, because casting a positive sense of strength makes individuals want to be around you.

The crucial lesson learned here is: when the individuals are safe, secure, and happy, a reciprocally beneficial circle is produced around you also. When your sense of self-regard steps-up, a sense of self reliance occurs, and assurance blooms.

Start your process of self-evaluation today by spending some person- to- person time with numero uno -- yourself. Find a calm corner and apportion some cherished time to discovering you. Try to go for about half an hour a day, but even 15 minutes will get you going. Let yourself gaze into space, think, daydream, meditate...

You may be thinking I'm crazy. Who has the luxury of additional, disposable time? While it's true that a lot of us have over scheduled ourselves to the point of debilitation, therefore leaving very little time in our lives for gazing into space and contemplation, the time we give ourselves is select time that not only do we require, we merit.

Employ all your multitasking skills to carve out a little time for yourself. While you drive, for example, do some self-analysis along the way. Echo positive affirmations at traffic signals, or take that time to pray. I spend time with myself when I exercise in the gym. This is a great time to assume a "thinking about myself" place. As a matter of fact, I often muster up some of my best ideas while I'm riding the bicycle. Who knew?

Whatever you do, even if you simply hide in your bathroom for 10 minutes a day, breathe deeply and give yourself the present of positive reflection. Consider yourself in the best imaginable way, and choose to do whatever you are able to to raise the quality of your life
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Take stock of your personal currency by filling in the following exercise: put down an honest appraisal of your powers, attributes, and current goals.

I feel worthwhile once I _________________________.
I am competent and successful in my__________________.
I am most pleased when I _________________________.
My accomplishments make me feel worthwhile as_________.
I am securest when I _________________________.
My positive mind-set for my future includes_____________.
My acquaintances and relatives appreciate me for my_______.
I admire myself because I'm________________________.
I feel satisfied and positive when_____________________.

Go forward to develop your personal inventory, assessment and evaluation as it's a liquid exercise. It's likewise wholly worth every moment you spend on it: by paying attention to the matters that interest you, you'll make breakthroughs about inner strengths and passions that have been out of sight for much too long, and uncover options and opportunities you might not have believed were there.

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How are you going to get it?

What is the difference between successful people on non-successful people? Are successful people more intelligent or do they just have better opportunities than non-successful people?

Brian Tracy said, "Only Difference between successful people and non successful people is this: "Everybody thinks about what they want, but successful people think about what they want, and HOW to get it!"

Others say plan your work and work your plan. No matter the mantra the most important things is the HOW.

The only way I ever accomplish anything is to figure out what I want, then how I am going to get it. My life has been driven by goals and what I want in life, the only way I ever achieve anything is by laying out a plan and working on that plan until I accomplish it. I remember my mother saying, "You're going to write your life away." Well, maybe so, but so far, I've been pretty successful using this method.

Another way to look at it is to start backwards, think of the house you want to live in, the cars you want to drive, the lifestyle you want your family to live. You have to lay out a game plan to get there. It is not going to miraculously show up on your door step someday. This means each day of your life you need to be doing at least one thing that will help you accomplish that goal.

Robert Kiyosaki explains this concept in his book "Rich Dad Poor Dad":

"Because I had two influential fathers, I learned from both of them. I had to think about each dad's advice, and in doing so, I gained valuable insight into the power and effect of one's thoughts on one's life. For example, one dad had a habit of saying, "I can't afford it." The other dad forbade those words to be used. He insisted I say, "How can I afford it?"

One is a statement, and the other is a question. One lets you off the hook, and the other forces you to think. My soon-to-be-rich dad would explain that by automatically saying the words "I can't afford it," your brain stops working. By asking the question "How can I afford it?" your brain is put to work. He did not mean buy everything you wanted. He was fanatical about exercising your mind, the most powerful computer in the world. "My brain gets stronger every day because I exercise it. The stronger it gets, the more money I can make." He believed that automatically saying "I can't afford it" was a sign of mental laziness."

So remember, the question isn't what you want… It's HOW are you going to get it?

Good Leaders are Good Learners

Entrepreneurial leaders do not have a mindset that adapts to failure.  Things go wrong, of course, but entrepreneurs don’t call them “failures” they call them “glitches, mistakes, bungles, setbacks” – but not failing.

When one such entrepreneur was asked about the hardest decision he ever had to make, he answered that he didn’t know what a hard decision was.  An entrepreneur will approach decision-making with the idea that there’s a strong likelihood that he/she will be wrong.  This doesn’t dissuade them – to the contrary they just do the best they can and worry about handling obstacles as they arise.

Another way of looking at it is to realize that you will make mistakes, so make them as quickly as you can in order to learn from them.  A good leader doesn’t view making mistakes as negative or irrevocable, he/she feels free to press on and try something new. There is the belief that something useful has been learned, and hopefully not at a high cost.

Let’s face it; if you’re going to live this life you’re going to make mistakes.  Make use of them as learning tools and don’t make the same ones twice.

Entrepreneurs also know the value of “intuition”.  While you shouldn’t act on the results of tossing a coin, there is something to be said about your “gut” feeling about the situation.  Very often business people become so involved with systems and checks-and-balances that they forget about that “gut” instinct they had when they started.

While not strictly logical, intuition does draw on a combination of experience, knowledge, and analysis as well as a lot of “gut” information you may have forgotten that you have.

You become a strong leader in your business by “practicing” being a leader.  It’s not a course you can take at a business college; it’s learned in the school of life as you’re doing business.

As a leader, you have to set standards and higher standards for your own behavior.  You must do this because appearances are sometimes more important that facts.

Consider for a moment that as an entrepreneur with a small business you’re planning on approaching a bank for a loan.   You know that you must present a well thought out and concise Business Plan, with all the projections for the use of the capital you’ll borrow and the repayment of the same.  You learned that from all those seminars you attended when considering becoming an entrepreneur, but is there something that you weren’t taught in seminars?  What about “presentation”?

I don’t mean the presentation of the Business Plan, we all know that must be well done and attractive.  What I’m talking about is YOU!  Do you maintain the appearance of leadership?  Do you project a confident appearance of a successful entrepreneur?  You may not have the faintest idea today how you’re going to pay for that advertising bill coming due on the 15^th, but you’re not going to give that banker that information.

Presenting yourself as a confident entrepreneur, filled with the excitement of your business idea, and a strong leader of your team (whether it’s 1 or 10 employees) is what will make you a winner and add untold weight to your Business Plan.  After all, you are your business to that banker so you’d better look good and confident.

To protect that faith that your people and your customers have in your organization, always ask yourself these two questions:

1. Could this be interpreted by anyone in a way that would shake their faith in my leadership?
2. Could this be misinterpreted and held against me or the company?

Strong leaders know that leadership is a lifelong learning experience, and when they make a mistake they simply continue to move forward.  The ability to bounce back is a quality that every entrepreneur I’ve ever known has in abundance.

When you blunder, get up and try again quickly.  As one high-tech executive I knew put it, “Our strategy is to fail forward fast.”

How to Deal with "No" in Business

           

No matter what you sell, you will inevitably face rejections and refusals, but learning to see “No” as valuable feedback can take you to a new level. 

            Over the years, I’ve had as many rejections as anyone else, especially as an author who doesn’t have a “celebrity” name.  Here are some ways I’ve learned to cope with this situation:

1. It’s only their opinion – When someone tells us that what we’re attempting can’t be done, we tend to think they’re right.  What I’ve learned is to look at that “no” as just that person’s opinion.  It isn’t good or bad; it’s just data coming in to me.  I can analyze it and make my next move smarter.  What I’ve received is valuable feedback that can help me to find a new and different approach.  

Don’t let a “no” undermine your confidence, your belief in the value of your product, idea, book, or your ability.  Go out and resell it again!

2. Don’t get defensive – It’s OK to get angry when rejected, what’s not OK is to make excuses or try to persuade the other party that they are wrong.  Use your anger to get yourself going again, let that “no” create a sense of urgency to find a better way.

Take action to prove that the other person is wrong.  Instead of getting depressed when rejected, take up the challenge, and vow to solve the problem and demonstrate that you were in the right all along.

3. Let history be your guide – If people are laughing at your ideas, ask yourself why that might be.  Is your idea just ahead of its time?  Or is it because you haven’t expressed your concept well enough, or demonstrated to prospects how they’re going to benefit in the long term?  Understand that it takes time for every new idea or product to gain acceptance.  When Alexander Graham Bell said he had found a way for people living thousands of miles apart to communicate, other people scoffed and said it couldn’t be done.  The rest as they say is history.  Examples like this one teach you that other people who have been laughed at and told “no” have managed not only to achieve their goals, but also to surpass them. 

In the past, hearing “no” from a prospective client or publisher would have sent me into a tailspin.  Now, I try to embrace the rejection, and take that information to see what I can learn from it.  Doing so lets me come out stronger every time.  It will do the same for you.

Staying Motivated for Business in Five Easy Steps

Motivating yourself to excel should not be something you do only when the spirit moves you.  It’s an ongoing process that should include every facet of your life including your business life. This means your mental attitude, physical well-being and appearance, work atmosphere, your interaction with others (clients and employees alike), and your off-the-job environment.

Motivational experts get paid big bucks to tell professionals, striving for success, that they must constantly examine these factors.  How do you do that?  The five tips below should help.

1.      Maintain a Positive Attitude – Let’s realize that life is only 10% of what happens to us and 90% how we react to it.  We’re responsible for our own actions and attitudes, and changing them when appropriate.  When you’re around people/things that are uplifting and positive, you feel that way.  You have more confidence in yourself, and know you can change whatever needs changing. If you can make your workplace such a place you’ll find happier workers and higher production. You might even find your employees look forward to coming to work!

2.      Leave Personal Troubles Home -  Everyone has problems, but they don’t belong at work. Turn your attention and energy entirely to your on-the-job tasks.  This will actually be good for you because you’ll get a mental break from your troubles.

3.      Create Positive Affirmations -  The reason for writing goals for your business is the same as creating positive affirmations on paper.  What your eyes see and ears hear, your mind will believe.  Try it!  After you have written them down, read them aloud to yourself – and do it every morning when you get into work.  You’ll be amazed at what happens.  Come up with a set of new ones every month.  Statements such as, “I’m an important and valuable person,” or “I know I’ll make good use of my time today.”  Repeating them out loud everyday at a set time will help reinforce positive actions.

4.      Make Sure Break Times Are Really Break Times - This is an area where most bosses/entrepreneurs fall down. You become so intense about the project or situation you’re working on that you don’t ease up.  Thinking that it’ll be solved in the next few seconds, and then you’ll get a cup of coffee can lead you right up to quitting time.  Regularly adhering to a specified break schedule, even if you’re the boss, releases the tension.  If you work on a computer this is an even greater problem because before you realize it – you have been working in that same position for hours.  The best answer to this is to set yourself a reminder on your appointment calendar for every 2 hours, and let the computer reminder chime send you the alert to move around.

5.      Exercise,-  I know that lately it seems that “exercise” is the cure-all to every physical ailment or your love life, but despite that there is some truth to that ugly word.  By “exercise” I don’t mean that you should go out and join a gym and spend your lunch-time, 3-days-a-week there working out.  What is really beneficial and workable is that at those chiming alerts from your computer, get up and walk around your desk or room.  Maybe go outside and get the mail and enjoy the sunlight (if you’re an entrepreneur that has a home office), or just get up and do a few stretches.  Concentrated, tense thinking – typing - plotting plans - or whatever your work, makes all those muscles tighten up and knot up.  Then when we move we “ooh” and “ouch” because we have knotted up into a ball of tension. Periodic stretching, even at our desk, or just getting up and walking over to the window and getting a different view can help.  One of the greatest disservices modern business décor has done to us, is making our offices pristine, sleek, unencumbered spaces.  There is nothing more relaxing than getting up from your desk and walking over to a peaceful, serene, seascape or pastoral painting and just drinking it in visually.  Momentarily transporting your mind out of work and into that place does wonders.  A few good paintings and less shiny chrome in offices would benefit us all.

It only takes a little concentrated effort on our part to keep motivated and productive, which leads to success.  I know you’re going to hate hearing this, but it’s true anyway – and that is, “WHEN LIFE GIVES YOU LEMONS – MAKE LEMONADE!”

10 spiritual ways to eliminate stress

1. Break the stress cycle

Relieve your symptoms of stress by exercising, meditating, sleeping etc. Take care of your body by eating well and getting enough sleep and exercise. You can also try observing your reactions to stressors and whether they are appropriate for the situation. Observation alone is a great way to manage stress.

2.  Look for grace. 

Keep an eye out for little miracles in your life.

3.  Find quiet. 

God talks when we listen. When you reconnect with yourself, nature and your Higher Power, the ways to manage your stress naturally appear. Our little human worries seem inconsequential. 

4.  Do that which makes you feel close to God. 

Put yourself in the environment where you feel God. If you don't at the moment, go to where you used to feel sacredness. You can try going back to church or any sacred places to sit and relax.

5.  Remember what you love. 

For mothers, loving our children can reconnect us to the Divine.  This includes nature, life and your partner. 

6.  Find a trusted person or persons to support your desire to reconnect. 

This person could be a priest, minister friend or grandmother. Discuss ways to manage your stress spiritually.

7.  Remember when you used to be connected and make it a practice to remember that every day. 

When stress approaches, recall that peaceful times and imagine actually being there.  Remember how protected you felt then. 

8.  Mindfulness

Practice being fully present and mindful.  Give yourself the assignment of being mindful for 1 day, 1 hour or 1 minute.  Really be present.  Observe yourself and the events around you and fully participate with your heart.

9. Choose to change your patterns

Make a choice to find yourself again. However, do not force it nor stress about it. It is not advisable to manage stress by creating more stress.


10.  Be grateful

Remember to be thankful every day for everything that you have in your life. 

Word Power

Love your neighbor as "YOURSELF" is one of the commandments often quoted from scripture. Many times emphasis is placed on the neighbor rather than "YOURSELF" In fact some would have you believe that loving yourself is somewhat conceited. Yet, if that were the case why is it there. Furthermore, loving you is a prerequisite to loving others.

Loving yourself is a major part of success. It is something that makes you feel good about yourself and leads you to accept who you are. People who love themselves first emerge successful in any field because they recognize they are not what they do. While most people generally love themselves during their childhood, they are eventually bombarded with negativism as they grow up. Even the most loving parents can unconsciously make their own children feel bad about themselves. If certain events in your life have damaged your ability to love yourself start using the power of words to rebuild what has been torn down. Death and life are in the power of the tongue.

You can use any of these powerful affirmations.

“I feel great about myself and I love myself for who I am.”
“Today, I shower myself with unconditional love.”
“I radiate respect and love so I get love and respect in return.”
“I am intelligent, creative, and cultured but I am still a humble person.”
“I have the freedom to make my own decisions in life.”
“I am a special person who deserves love and respect from others.”
“My high self-esteem enables me to accept compliments with ease and compliment others in return.”
“It does not matter what other people say. What matters most is how I react to what they say and what I believe.”
“I deserve everything good that happens in my life. I release the need for suffering and misery.”
“From this day forward, I release the need to prove myself to anyone else.”
“I always get the support I need. The universe is with me at every step I take.”
“I feel grateful for having a wonderful life.”
“Today, the door opens for many opportunities that universe has in store for me.”
“My mind is full of prosperous, loving, and positive thoughts that manifest themselves in my life experiences.” “I release the past and live in the present. I get to enjoy every good thing that comes and experience life to the fullest.”
“I am a beautiful, talented, and capable person.”
“I believe in myself and my ability to excel in everything I do.”

The difference between loving yourself and not loving yourself can mean the difference between success and failure as well as happiness and misery. Once you have become capable of loving yourself and accepting yourself for who you are, you can experience positive changes in your life. If you are incapable of respecting yourself, you have no right to expect others to do so.